Mike

I’m 24, Single, and Live With My Parents

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Ok, so I guess the fact that I’m employed makes me a somewhat functioning member of society. Still, as my Mom has been so lovingly saying over the past few weeks, “You’re going to be 24 and what have you accomplished?” She says that in her ‘I love you and all but seriously …’ voice. It did get me thinking, what are the accomplishments a 24 year old should have reached by this point in life? Here are the few big ones I came up with.

Graduate College: Check. Its been almost a year and a half now, which is hard to believe. Do I have to go to grad school? I don’t think its a requirement. I’m on the fence about going myself. What I do know is that I’m not going to grad school just to go, I will have a clear goal in mind.

Have a Job: Check. It took a little while to find the job, a little longer to start getting paid, and then a while longer until I was actually given work to do. Its actually more complicated than that sounds, if you can believe it. I actually have a really good job for such a recent graduate. I think my salary is fairly decent, I get 27 paid days off a year (if you count holidays), hours are flexible and I don’t have to work much overtime. The work isn’t stressful and my co-workers are easy to get along with. It could be better: I could have internet at my desk and be allowed to bring in my iPod. Just things I will be aware of if the next job I look for is in the same field.

Move Out: Not yet. I see both sides to this argument. My side … I have a reasonable commute, I get along with my Mom and Step-Dad just fine, and of course its cheaper. Yes, I do pay rent but its not that much considering it includes food and utilities. Paying for a cable package like this on my own would make me go broke within days. Not having to worry about making dinner every night is another huge plus. The other side … To me the most appealing thing your own place is the space. I feel like I’m still living at college, just without a roommate. All my stuff is packed into one room. I don’t have a separate room to put things. I don’t have a living room with a sofa and coffee table. Everything I own is either in my room or stored somewhere else (basement, garage, etc.). I’m not someone who stays out to all hours or does things that my parents will have a problem with causing tension in the house. I’m not planning on moving out just to do it and cross another thing off the checklist. Put this one on the Things to Accomplish by 25 list.

Be in a Relationship/Married: Nada. Sometime in the future a discussion will have to be had on the merits of this being an accomplishment. For my generation this concern likely moves to the list of accomplishments by 30. So I’m not worried about this too much right now.

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  • Matt

    This is actually a question I have pondered about too Mike. I often wondered what a person my age should have accomplished by now. Now, I guess I have accomplished a lot of things: a fairly accomplished scholar-athlete in high school, exchange student to Japan for a year, double major in college, moved to Seattle to work for a company 2nd on my list (LM was first) doing work that I really love to do, and currently contemplating a return to grad school for a Masters in Aero. I am in the midst of the longest relationship of my life; however, marriage is something that is not on my mind at this point. In fact, I feel getting married this young is not a priority on my list (sorry Dave!). I just feel I need to live my life a little longer as a single man (in this sense, unmarried) and enjoy it.

  • Ahad

    Mike, I want to thank you for posting this comment and making me feel like a bum. Your topic title reminds me of the Seinfeld episode where George does the opposite of his natural instincts and hits on some girl in the coffee shop.

    I know I have the basics covered in terms of graduating from college (with a double major) and having a job. The part about moving out however, hasn’t really happened. I have lived away from home, when I went to college and also when I was on my co-op, but I just happen to live at home now. Eventually, I will move out, but not yet. Granted, my parents still nag me like me I am teenager and criticize almost everything I do. But the fact that I don’t have to cook my own dinner and I have access to free laundry facilities outweigh the negatives. In terms of marriage, I am nowhere near getting married. Not only am I missing the part about having a girl to marry, I just don’t feel I am ready. I don’t think I am ready for the responsibilities. I might have to go for an arranged marriage so I don’t have to worry about finding a girl on my own.

  • Evan

    I highly recommend moving out. The careless freedom is the biggest perk. Want to walk around the living room naked? Done. Want to cook naked? Done. You see where I am going with this. The biggest drawback to living on your own is, let’s say you drop some crumbs on the floor. If you don’t pick it up, it just stays there, you can’t rely on a roommate or a dog to get it for you. This is the biggest adjustment i’ve had to make.

  • Dave

    I’m 24, married, and own a duplex.

    Does that make me the “Anti-Mike?” I must say, I never really imagined myself in this situation while I was in college. It all came about very quickly as well. After graduating from PSU in 2004, I lived alone in central Ohio for a year, 400 miles from my then-girlfriend/now-wife, Ali. I found myself stricken with the urge to settle down, so I bought a ring, packed it all up and moved back to PA. Within 3 months of the initial move, we had bought the house. Buying the house was very interesting, in that previously, the largest thing I had ever owned was my car. I remember looking at this thing and thinking, “wow, look at all those bricks I now own!” It does present a lot of new issues that are not present while renting. For example, last night, 3 stories of downspouts fell down in a windstorm. Now I may be forced to buy a 50 foot ladder instead of simply calling the landlord to fix it. However, it is a lot of fun being able to paint and decorate however I want (assuming it passes the wife-test). Being a landlord has been relatively trouble free thus far, unless you count the near-miss where my gas boiler backed up and nearly killed all of my tenants with Carbon Monoxide. Lawsuits aside, I definitely recommend domestic life.

  • Kathleen

    this topic is a little old…but I feel the need to represent the female side of this. i dunno about jess and valerie, but i have to extinguish the myth that every girl is only keeping one thing in mind all the time: a ring. to be honest, right now I am just ready to graduate, get established in a school district, and spend time with my boyfriend (matt: high fiiiiiive!). not gonna lie, definitely want to get married…but just gotta clarify that we’re not all in a rush to be married as soon as we get outta college (for those of you who did that, i have to say, “not that there’s anything wrong with that!”)